Sometimes it's O.K. to be ANGRY!

angry...ok?!?

Are you familiar with these lines "I blame you!", "Shut up you stupid head!", "What the? stay away from me!"?. Those dialogs are so practical when you're referring about anger. It is a normal and legitimate reaction to feeling wronged, whether that wrong is real or imagined.

WHAT IS ANGER?

-FOR ME?


Anger is a complex motion. We are often frightened by our anger when we let out in destructive ways. On the other hand, we can also feel the effects of holding in our anger. Like an upset stomach, pressure , headaches (like the feeling of a blasting brain,damn).

Finding a proper balance and expressing our anger constructively are important but difficult emotional tasks. Duh, we are not born with an instinctive knowledge of how to focus on it or use it for our benefit or what. That is something that must be learned.

-BASED ON FACTS


Anger is part of the fight/flight brain response to the perceived threat of pain. When a person makes the cognitive choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening/painful behavior of another (person or organization, or any outside force) anger (as opposed to fear) becomes the predominant feeling, with behavioral, cognitive and physiological correlates. Further informations? just click here.

::grrr...anger::

To feel anger is neither good or bad. It is what we do with our anger, how we act when we are angry is so important. For example when we lash out in anger, later we may feel worse in remorse. However, when we discuss our hurt when someone who is understanding, we may feel better. And talking with the person who caused the hurt in the first place may create a stronger bond between you and that person.
It is difficult to a teenager like me to make the distinction between the emotion of anger and what is done with that anger. To a teenager, they are one and the same. Nevertheless, a teenager needs to learn the difference between the two.

We can control ourselves that we can feel angry and express our blames , yet not be destructive. In other words, it is O.K. to be angry, but it is not O.K. to behave in a destructive manner out of anger.

It is very important to make this distinction with yourself. We should not be chastised for feeling angry, only for destructive behavior. Eventually, we will learn the difference between feeling angry and acting out anger in harmful ways.

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Wondering why I posted the topic about this anger thing?. Hours ago, I arrived from school. It was very late. I went home exactly 6:15 , I think!?!. Class dismissed around 4:00-4:15pm. At that time I'm so hungry and I don't know why?!?...tulad ng isang P.G., I almost crawl because of hunger. Geeez, when I'm already at home, I kept on shouting "Naka ng...! Kainis!!!!" and whatsoever. Then my sister asked me to help her with some of her assignments. And I was irritated...I don't know if it's because of her face or what (peace grace ^_^). Then I shouted at her "heh! Umalis ka nga". My mom heard it then she said it's o.k. to be angry but in a nice way. Feel free to be angry but I don't need to hurt someone. No one interdicts someone to be angry. It's a prerogative but it has limitations. Nothing will happen if I shout and shout at the whole time, it already happened. All I need to do is to do it in a nice and calm way.

Now I learned something important. Thanks mama...sorry sis. Again, I learned from my mistakes.